Monday 10 December 2012

Expectations...

I find it a very big word- so big that it becomes more important than your feelings and relationships. Your feelings have a dressing of expectations. If you can't fulfill them then you are less loved and less cared for. You become the ugly duckling. I have always found relationships very complicated. Love is just not enough. There has to be understanding, compatibility and of course, expectations are also involved. And there is no limit to people's expectations- you do more, they expect more. Like a football match, nobody is going to remember the goals that the goalkeeper saved but they will never forget the ones he missed.
But yes, its true, we are all just humans. Its a part of human nature to expect. If you love someone then you expect love, if you care for someone then you expect care in return. And there is no real harm in that also. Problem arises when your expectations become unrealistic- they become so high that others feel pressurized. It starts decaying a relationship. You feel suffocated. Just think, what if somebody is not able to come upto your expectations, what will you do? He can be anyone- your parent, your friend, your sibling or even your lover. Will you just break off all ties with him or will you sit back and realize?

Realization is very important. Some relationships break just because people don't realize. They don't realize that they can also be at fault. They don't realize the result of their actions.This worsens everything.

If you are expecting something from someone just be sure that you are having realistic expectations and you are not suffocating anyone's life. As they say, " Love is unconditional, but relationships are not."

Tuesday 30 October 2012

A FAIRY TALE...

All of us have grown up reading the fairy tales having a princess and a knight in shining armour with a happily ever after end. but not many of us have wondered what happens after this 'happily ever after'. Do the prince and the princess get married? And if they marry, do they face the same situations, same tussles that we share after marriage? Now, one would that that they are the prince and the princess- the future king and queen of their kingdom so obviously they would not have monetary issues but money is not the only issue. How will Cinderella look holding one child in one arm and another in her other arm and one pulling her hair, ever thought about it? Would Snow white nag her prince when he will not listen to her? We have never thought about it!!!

Obviously the Utopia created by fairy tales is short lived. As one grows he/she comes out of it. A person becomes practical and faces the realities which are far different from these fairy tales. No prince will come and bend on his knees to propose you. No one will be enchanted by just your one look. And the boys, most probably, you will not find any damsel in distress waiting for you to help her!

But what if you never want to come out? You are so terrified by the reality that your own fantasy world is an escape from the harsh realities, is it escapism? Being in a state of denial is also like this when you are just not ready to accept. usually it happens as a post-traumatic experience but eventually one accepts the reality. I hope i will also some day. Till then, I am the princess waiting for my knight...

Monday 29 October 2012

who r u...


who are you...

not my lover

not just a frnd

nor ma relative....

but still

u care for me

still u like me

still u luv me

u r more than a frnd

but cant b ma lover

i love u

bt this luv z diffrnt

mayb i cant define it

nor i can define our relationship

but its tru tht i want 2 b wid u forevr

i cant see u luvin sum1 else

i cant promise ma luv 2 u, evn

but i can promise 2 b wid u

i need u

i want u

i like u

i love u

but

i dont know who r u....