MARRIAGE

 Marriage- often called amalgamation of two souls but is it really so?

Instead of amalgamation, marriage often results in losing of one's entity, identity to support the other. In Indian societies, usually, the woman is expected to compromise. She is the one who leaves her parents' house just to support someone else completely unrelated to her and what she gets in results- just abuses and taunts. I know I may be sounding like a feminist but that is the reality. You won't find a man who left his home to take care of his wife and her parents when they needed support. No, because that is not his responsibility but it is surely his wife's responsibility to take care of his family in fact, it's her duty. They are her priority.

I know our country has progressed, women are not behind men in any way but for those people who say this, today also girls leave their homes after marriage not boys. Why? Just because that's the tradition!!!

And if she tries to take the responsibility of her parents then she is blamed of being partial. People follow the traditions blindly without even understanding their relevance or irrelevance for them as well as for the society.

It's true that marriage is an institution but it is an institution based on inequality. And on top of this all- DOWRY!!! Actually not dowry, giving or taking dowry is a criminal offense, they are "gifts" given by girls' parents for their daughters so that she doesn't face the indirect taunts of her mother-in-law, the grubbiness of her father-in-law and absence of love from her husband. I know today, women take advantage of this anti-dowry act but that doesn't mean this practice is not prevalent in our society. It is there eating away marriages and families.

I am not saying that daughters-in-law are always right and they are always ill treated. My concern is just with the emotional aspect. People should try and understand what a girl is going through leaving her parents' home behind and entering a strange new world. Just be sensitive to her needs and securities.